I traveled to see my dad for Father’s day and I am so glad I did. It was fun to see him for a few hours and watch him do his morning routine in his cassock as he plans to take the some part of the service in church. One of the things I always looked forward to see my dad for is wit. He really knows how to get it on, he’s the king of good satire in my family. My family is not perfect, but I am grateful for them, all of them, and today especially my dad.
I was at the cultural day for Role Model school (Daystar Christian Centre Primary School) a couple of days ago and it was fun to see fathers come to watch their sons and daughters take part in different fantastic performances. (If you are wondering if I had a son or daughter there too, the answer is no, I went to ‘root’ for my nephews and niece aka Ebi.)
A part of the competition was for fathers to tie the traditional head tie for their girls and they were judged on speed of execution and head tie design. My uncle was on stage rearing to go to make this head tie for his 3 year old daughter. Just before they started, 3 of the 9 girls were seated, but their fathers were not there to partner them. A few calls were made, and no shows, the MC now got volunteer fathers to stand in for them. I don’t know the reason why the fathers were not present, and really I am not here to judge anyone because the absent fathers could have had many reasons, including death for not showing up. Infact, my uncle had an appointment that day too which meant he couldn’t stay to the very end of the whole program before leaving.
No matter how hard you try as a father “You cannot always be there for your children”.
In our current society, that statement is even truer because family values are constantly being eroded. The government is failing families, the society is failing families, employers are failing families and individuals are failing families. That father who didn’t show up might be in tears with a broken heart for missing an important day in the life of his kid, but guess what, there may be nothing he can do about it.
While you’ll hear suggestions on how you can spend more time with your kids including setting up your own business, working from home, or getting involved in a network marketing company to give you time and flexibility (all of which I think can help), I realised that it is all those things and more. Raising great kids with balance is beyond just having time and money. It requires grace from God; help from the Holy Spirit.
There is a blueprint to great fathering – and it is learning from the best Father anyone can have.
I’ve engaged parents on many occasions with regards to their children and 3 things I generally find among many parents are:
1.) Parenting is trial and error for many parents. Hit and miss. So they hope they’ll hit more times than they miss until the kids grow up to become independent.
2.) Christian parents don’t apply Christian principles to parenting. Either they think they can do better using other means, or it doesn’t work or these kids defile such ‘gentle’ biblical handling.
3.) They are resigned to their own failings and are looking for the school, the church, the children class, the Big aunty and uncles (or Big mummy and Daddy) that will help them bring their kids to order.
Today, on father’s day, I want to show a different way. A way that I believe every parent should follow, a tried and tested way, the way of the ‘Good News’.
Genesis 18:19 – “For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the Lord, to do justice and judgment; that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him”
God was certain of one thing, that Abraham will actively through examples show his children the way of the Lord. You know what? That was good enough for God. The children of Israel (Children of Abraham) didn’t come out as saints, no, but Abraham was made the father of many nations and his role was done. He did what was required of him.
In 1 Samuel 2:12 – 36 – It was different with the sons of Eli. Although Eli was there for his children, he didn’t actively through examples show his children the way of the lord. This is what God said about it in vs 29 “ So why do you scorn my sacrifices and offerings? Why do you give your sons more honor than you give me—for you and they have become fat from the best offerings of my people Israel!”
God eventually destroyed the whole family as a result.
When I become a father, I’ll leave the outcome to God, I’ll concentrate on the process, and this is the process –
Proverbs 22:6 – Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.
So as a father do you know the right path? Are you aware of the blueprint of the saving grace of our Father who gave us his only begotten son, Jesus Christ, that we may become His children?
That is the first step to being a great father, being a son to the greatest Father; being a child of God.
Today, give your life to Jesus, or re-dedicate your life and ask the Holy Spirit to show you how to raise your children in the right path.
Wondering how to get started to being a great father? Simple, just say this prayer:
“Heavenly Father I thank you for the love you have shown towards me. I accept the opportunity to be your child through the sacrifice of Jesus Christ. I want to learn to be a great father to my children, and I am ready to accept your ways, follow your leading and dedicate my parenting to your right path. Amen.
What next after that?
Connect to a ministry that has a vibrant Men’s ministry in your local area or send us an e-mail email@example.com and we can suggest a few ministries to contact and get you going.
Happy Father’s Day!