We’ve been talking on Taking Initiative as a Series on Mind and Mouth.

I really want to move on to where we explore the first Stone in the Science of Taking Initiative; however I want to help a demographic of my readers with some practical steps.

We can call this post Taking Initiative Part 3, because I want to address a common fear in the Marketplace: The fear of ending your career because you are now a parent (especially for women).

Becoming a parent has sent many mums and some dads packing from the Marketplace because of the ways they are perceived. Admittedly this issue affects women more than men.

The rigours of pregnancy, delivery, maternity leave, Out of work for months and up to years for some, the fear of not fitting in, Employer’s policy etc. all account for this.

However, many parents still want to or have to go back to work to live a decent life and support their families.

Therefore, I want you to have a different perspective to parenting and how it can help you get your next job rather than be a factor working against you.

The secret is this: Be an Intentional Parent, Hone in on the soft Skills and Present it well.

In her book, Successful work habits in a week, Jane Smith highlighted the relevance of maximizing your skills from Life Roles. These are skills we often overlook, and do not make the most of when putting our CVs together.  She gave the example of Helen, a Sales Executive.

Here is Helen’s Life Skills List

Life Roles Skills Developed or Used
Traveller Language and Communication SkillsOrganising Self and OthersPlanningProblem SolvingTime Management


Captain of Hockey Team Cooperating with othersProviding clear direction and leadershipTaking tough or unpopular decisionsThinking on my feetGiving feedback


Parenting PlanningCoordinating more than one task at a time Making ArrangementsSupporting PeopleResolving AgreementsDealing With Crises



Jane’s list above is a good starting point for you to look at your role as a parent and the peculiarities in your family that brings out the best in you.

A parent of an autistic child could be extremely good in Organising, Efficient Process creation, and advanced Proactive Skills and Interpersonal skills.

A parent of 7 Kids will have things that they must absolutely get right for the family not to be in chaos.

Parents that have guided their children to sports success, academic excellence, community relevance etc. have things they do behind the scenes and can make them become excellent coaches.

So if you can get your team (family) of 5 or 3 or 7 together to achieve something great, that means you can get a team in the Marketplace to achieve something great too.

Maybe it is time to talk about how you budget for your kids tuition, after school classes, holidays, and how you keep a structured calendar of reminders and how everyone in your family has a Google account or Evernote account with a shared family calendar that creates collaboration such that

a.)    Daddy does not forget to attend John’s Tennis Game

b.)    Beverly does not forget to ask her teacher for her assignment

c.)     Adeyemi knows what time to ask for his medication

d.)    Mummy knows that Pasta and Sauce is for dinner

In conclusion, if you become proactive with your Parenting Skills, and you become a good parent intentionally, you will be the person an employer is looking for to nurture and grow their business.

Being a good parent could land you your next job.

I hope you have a few ideas you can pick up from this post and use to update your CV, stand out in an interview, and land your dream job, simply because you are an Outstanding Parent.

Food for thought

I ask everyone I coach in CV writing and Interview preparation this question:

Do you know what your proposed employer is afraid of? Find it, and address it. If you successfully do, you are likely to get the job.

If you want me to help you write your CV at an affordable price send me a mail @ ibukunonitiju [at] mindandmouth [dot] com.


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